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Holistic Sex Coaching

Ariana's sex therapy service

Holistic Sex Coaching - Ariana's sex therapy service in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, Bath and the South West

Introduction

In my role as an escort and sex coach, I've helped many people (men, women and couples) with a wide range of sexual concerns and goals. Some examples include:

Men

  • Gain more confidence in sex, from being coached by someone with practical experience.
  • To have sex for the first time (virgins).
  • Explore different aspects of sex in a non-judgemental way.
  • Help with sexual concerns such as early ejaculation (premature ejaculation), non-medical erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, overcoming inhibitions.

Women

  • Improve libido and learn techniques to help to de-stress.
  • Reduce anxiety surrounding sex and learn to relax into pleasure.
  • Learn to feel more sexy, less inhibited or become more comfortable about their body, perhaps becoming orgasmic for the first time.
  • Develop and explore their sexual side – to appreciate themselves and celebrate their uniqueness, no matter what their current shape, size or (assuming legal) age. I'm very much for encouraging women of all shapes, ages and sizes to embrace their sexuality. A good sex life isn't just for young beautiful people, as many adverts would have us believe.

Couples

  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Relate more deeply with their partner.
  • Explore their energetic connection via tantric practices.

The practical experience and insights I've gained, together with my own research into conventional sex therapy models, has lead me to develop my own unique style of sex coaching which is holistic in nature: Holistic Sex Coaching.


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Holistic Sex Coaching

Holistic Sex Coaching incorporates positive aspects from more orthodox sex therapy, within a person-centred, contemporary framework. It also includes additional elements, which I feel have an important part to play in sex.

My Aim

My aim is to empower you towards a more fulfilling sex life.

This will take into account not only what you may perceive as the concern, but highlighting and exploring other factors which may have some relevance. I work very much by intuition and in a consultative manner – not dictatorial or directive, but rather alongside you in a supportive way.

My Coaching Model

My coaching model (B. E. E. E. M. S.) takes into account many factors:


Body & Body Image, Environment, Emotions, Energy, Mind and Spirit.


Body and Body Image

Anything that influences the body can affect not only the mechanics of sexual function but, just as importantly where body image issues are of concern, it can affect how a person feels about sex. This is true of both sexes, as the ability to relax into pleasure can be helped or hindered by a person's perception of whether they feel sexy or not. Body image is something that can be changed, and libido enhanced, by the techniques and lifestyle changes which I suggest.

Environment

Environment can influence mood which, in turn, can affect arousal. Lighting, colour, aroma, temperature, textures, sound – they all play some part in helping create a supportive (or otherwise) setting for sex. It may be that something needs changing. I often make suggestions to improve this area and it's surprising the effect which simple changes can make.

Emotions

The emotional side of sex is very important and is often neglected in topics about the subject.

Men frequently contact me, initially to ask my advice about how they can improve their "technique" in the bedroom. What surprises them is that along with such tips, I'll also stress the importance of developing emotional expression, understanding body language to read their partner's emotions (if they have a partner), how to access their own emotions and not to be afraid to show their feelings when it's appropriate to do so. I sometimes get "thank you" emails saying they're getting on much better with their partner, since learning about these things.

Communication skills are essential to good sex. One of the best aphrodisiacs is to feel heard and understood. That's why learning to listen effectively is the most useful thing you can learn, to improve the emotional side of a stagnant or faltering relationship, or even to improve a good one.

Understanding and overcoming difficulties caused by the different way women and men communicate, can help to improve sex.

Energy

By this I mean physical energy – how you feel in your body e.g. sluggish, or full of energy and vitality. Libido can be affected by lifestyle. Certain practices build energy, while others deplete it. I often make suggestions to clients for improvements, based on my knowledge in this area.

Mind

The largest and most influential sexual organ in the body, is the brain. Therefore I focus on the connection between mind and body in my coaching. I may suggest some techniques from N.L.P. (neuro-linguistic programming), to help you mentally re-frame or encourage imagination and role-play, to access a positive mental attitude towards sex.

Since stress and performance-anxiety sometimes feature in people's concerns, I teach exercises to help with relaxation. Visualisation or breathing exercises may also be suggested in some cases.

Spirit

Sex is very much about energy flow. Your own spiritual life or lack of awareness in this area, can mean that you are limiting yourself sexually. If this is part of your life you would like to address, I am able to give some pointers in this area.


Holistic Sex Coaching - Ariana's sex therapy service in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, Bath and the South West

What I can help you with

  • Encouraging you to open your senses and gain a greater capacity for sexual enjoyment.
  • Tantric exercises to help you begin to feel energy flowing in and through your body, and to increase the power of your orgasmic responses.
  • Meditative exercises to improve your connection to your own spirit and so make you more aware of this side of your life.
  • Your own personal aromatherapy plan for your body, mind and emotional state.
  • Yogic exercises to help you relax and make positive changes, e.g. yoga nidra – this is something I have found extremely useful with clients where anxiety and performance issues have been an issue and also where general "stressed out" states have been impacting on someone's sex life.

It's my belief that, at heart, we are all spirit beings capable of loving and being loved. Love is at the heart of human longing and desire. The desire to connect with another deeply; to be who we really are and loved just as we are, is an important part of great sex which thrives on authenticity and the ability of one person to open up to another. Self-acceptance and learning to love oneself is part of what I teach. It's only when we learn to love ourself, that we can truly love another and connect deeply.

It's then that sex becomes great sex; something more than two bodies coming together; something more than genital contact; something more even than two souls united, sharing the same emotions – it's the meeting of two spirits. There is the recognition that we are not alone in the world, that we are all connected at this deepest level. So sex becomes not only an enjoyable or meaningful way of expressing our love for someone, but helps us realise that our core being is love.

This is what gives me the greatest satisfaction of all as a facilitator – to be able to help someone realise that they are part of a greater connectedness to all of nature and one another. The impact of this realisation can extend far beyond what happens in the bedroom, to touch all aspects of life. If I only serve to help one person know this, all of this website will have been worth writing.


Ariana - independent, well-educated and erotic escort for Holistic Sex Coaching sessions in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, South Wales, the South West and London UK

How Does Sex Coaching Work?

Sex Coaching starts from where you are now in your sexual experience. It asks the question: "Where are you now and where would you like to be?"

Gaining Clarity

Prior to coaching, I may ask you some questions to help both of us gain clarity about your situation by means of a combination of email, telephone and a short questionnaire. I also use my sex coaching model (B.E.E.E.M.S.) so I don't miss vital areas. This process often illuminates issues that may not appear obviously relevant but, on closer inspection, hold vital clues as to the way forward for a person.

Establishing Goals

Goals are set right at the beginning of coaching, ideally before meeting, so that each session has an agreed purpose and both of us know the desired outcome.

You can either inform me of your goals or, if you prefer, we can work together to identify goals for you. Alternatively you may wish for me to make suggestions. I'm happy to do this, as I know each person will prefer a different degree of involvement in goal-setting. It's my belief, however, that a person will be more motivated to succeed where they have played a large part in forming their own goals, with or without assistance.

What Happens in the Sessions?

Each session is normally divided into two parts – a "talking / interactive" part and a "practical" part. Both parts will focus on helping you to reach your identified goals.

  • In the talking part of the session, I may suggest a variety of exercises to help with your specific concerns. As each person's situation is unique, so is my approach to each person. This is where I use my intuition and experience.

  • In the practical part of the session, I offer encouragement and positive, honest feedback, as I help you to improve your confidence in the practical aspects of sex. This help and guidance can include:

    • Sexual skills training where you practice on me, including foreplay / arousal techniques.
    • Learning body awareness, to heighten sensuality – aimed at improving your capacity for enjoyment.
    • Addressing specific sexual concerns, e.g. low libido, early ejaculation (premature ejaculation), delayed ejaculation, or simply learning to feel comfortable about expressing yourself in a sexual way, in the company of someone else.
Ariana - independent, well-educated and erotic escort for Holistic Sex Coaching sessions in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, South Wales, the South West and London UK

My Coaching Philosophy

An important part of my coaching philosophy, is to work with the person or couple so that they can be independent of me. I don't encourage people to see me any longer than necessary. This is very important and I measure my success as much by this, as by my "thank you" emails.

This sums up my whole philosophy in sex coaching:

It's my belief that everyone, no matter what their shape, size, gender, race, age (assuming legal) or disability can enjoy a fulfilling sex life and can grow to embrace their sexuality, deepen their understanding, knowledge and appreciation of themselves and others as unique sexual beings, capable of loving and being loved.

I offer a supportive, non-judgemental, informative, motivational coaching service that helps empower you towards making this a reality in your life.

A word about honest feedback and the process of change

Transformation involves change, and change isn't always easy. Acknowledging to yourself that there may be some areas you wish to change, is a good first step.

If there is something I notice that isn't taking you forward towards meeting your goals, then I will say so. In some cases this may not be something you wish to hear, but I will take the risk of losing you as a client than avoid my duty to tell you. When you book me, then your goals become my goals and I will use all my skills, knowledge, intuition and talents to help you get the enjoyable sex life which you deserve!

If you don't think you can stand honest feedback, then I respectfully suggest that I am not the coach for you.

Ariana - independent, well-educated and erotic escort for Holistic Sex Coaching sessions in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, South Wales, the South West and London UK

Further Resources

I have answered a series of questions on the subject of "Confidence in Sex" for a friend and colleague, which you may find interesting. I hope you will see how I can help you, through improving your sexual confidence, and how confidence in sex can improve other areas of your life!

As well as receiving private "thank you" emails (which, of course, I would never publish!), I've also started a page of Holistic Sex Coaching client testimonials which I've received, where the client has given permission for their comments to be published. I hope you find it useful to read a client's point of view.

Holistic Sex Coaching - Ariana's sex therapy service in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, Bath and the South West

What is the difference between Holistic Sex Coaching (HSC) and Practice Partner (PP)?

The focus of HSC is to optimise your skills, confidence and enjoyment of sex.

This may be as simple as gaining extra coaching in sexual techniques and practice, or more complex in addressing sexual problems via a multi-dimensional approach that takes into account areas such as the body, mind, emotions and energy.

The focus of PP is to give you practice at acting the role of a partner, so you are then empowered to go on to form your own real-life relationship of your own.

The whole focus of PP can be summed up in the short phrase "Act the part, then be the part". Sexual skills training may be one part of this but sex alone is not the sole focus, which is more broad-based aiming to equip you with many skills needed to form and maintain a relationship. It is important to realise that Practice Partner is exactly what it says - a time to practice skills. In order to reinforce this, several "reality checks" will be built into the meetings in order to reinforce this focus.

Holistic Sex Coaching - Ariana's sex therapy service in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, Bath and the South West

Rates

I offer two course lengths for both the Holistic Sex Coaching and Practice Partner services: a shorter "introductory" course (total length of 6 hours), and a longer "main" course (total length of 12 hours). If you are sure that you want a longer set of appointments than I offer in the "introductory" course, you can start immediately on the "main" course, which offers a reduced hourly rate compared to the shorter "introductory" course. Either course length can be bought as often as a client requires, or until they have aquired the skills which they set out as their targets.

The basic structure of the two course lengths is as follows:

Ariana - independent, well-educated escort for Holistic Sex Coaching and Practice Partner sessions in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, South Wales and the South West
Short Course Total: 4 hours £600  
       
Session: Sexual Hours Coaching Hours Session Length
1 1 hour 1 hour 2 hrs
2 1 hour 1 hour 2 hrs
       
Ariana - independent, well-educated escort for Holistic Sex Coaching and Practice Partner sessions in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, South Wales and the South West
Main Course Total: 8 hours £1200  
       
Session: Sexual Hours Coaching Hours Session Length
1 1 hour 1 hour 2 hrs
2 1 hour 1 hour 2 hrs
3 1 hour 1 hour 2 hrs
4 1 hour 1 hour 2 hrs
       
Ariana - independent, well-educated escort for Holistic Sex Coaching and Practice Partner sessions in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, South Wales and the South West

These rates are to be paid in full at the start of each course, and are for meetings in my local area which is the South West (Bristol, Gloucestershire, Cheltenham), South Wales (Cardiff, Newport, Bridgend) and the towns in between. I am also frequenting Cambridge and surrounding areas. After at least one meeting in my local area, I will travel to other areas too - please let me know at the initial enquiry stage if you would like me to do this and for how many meetings, then I will calculate the extra travelling charges.

After at least one meeting, some of the remaining coaching time can be via pre-arranged telephone conversations (each a minimum of 0.5 hour long), if you feel that this would be advantageous for you. However, I am keen that there is still some face-to-face coaching time too, which is why I would not want all of the coaching to be via telephone conversations.

Holistic Sex Coaching - Ariana's sex therapy service in Bristol, Cardiff, Newport, Bath and the South West

Further information

Please contact me by email if you have specific questions about this service, which you would like to discuss.