My approach to escorting

Important Considerations.

Booking an escort may or may not be right for you.

It may surprise you to read such a statement on an escort's website... after all, "she's in it to make money isn't she? Why would she put something on her site that might result in lost business?" Well yes - that's true to a large extent... I don't deny that I earn money by spending time with clients. At the same time, I feel it's right that you have fully thought through the reasons why you might want to see me, which isn't meant to sound patronising in any way, just to highlight that escorting isn't right for everyone in every situation.

I see a wide cross-section of people who have many different reasons for contacting me at various stages in their life. It isn't always as straightforward as being "just for sex" (although for many it might be).

Some might argue it isn't "right" for anyone to see an escort at any stage in their life; that there are "better" or "more appropriate" ways.

"How can someone think they will achieve any degree of intimacy when they are paying for someone to spend time with them?" they reason. Interestingly, it's often the same people that argue this case, who spend a fortune and weeks of their time wining and dining a woman, hoping to have sex with her, which then may take all of ten minutes, until they move onto the next girl and repeat the process!

Then there are others who realise escorting is not a substitute for meeting a girl, dating her in the more "normal" way and building rapport over time, achieving trust, friendship, companionship and usually a sexual relationship. Are they right? In many ways they are... Of course people are not going to achieve the same degree of intimacy with someone they've just met for a short period of time, even if they become a "regular" client, in the same way as a good marriage or partnership of several years. In other ways even their view isn't the full picture either though... they're right in one way but not another.

Different people have different needs

We don't live in an ideal world - which isn't to say we shouldn't have ideals - just that they may differ from one person to another, and some people are better equipped at achieving what they want than others. Intimacy can mean many things to different people and how one person goes about the process of achieving this may be entirely different to another. A lot of people do realise it's not an ideal scenario - but they view seeing me as a stepping stone towards something else.

What "intimacy" means to a lot of people is a strong desire for connection with another, both physically and on a deeper level: literally "Into-Me-See". Many of the people I've seen have allowed me to do just that... to "see into" them maybe for the first time, seeing their hurt from life's twists and turns, seeing the effects and scars of failed relationships, seeing the agony of mid-life with its body changes and emotional traumas, seeing the powerlessness of impotence or erectile problems, seeing the frustrations of sexual inexperience and poor communication skills with the opposite sex, amongst many other things.

I'm not saying I'm the first point of contact for any such problems. Far from it - I'm simply saying that many people who I've seen, have felt able to talk to me in areas they would perhaps have felt less inclined to bring up with other people, even trained counsellors. I have recently included a list of what I feel are useful resources on my links page including Relate, The Samaritans, and Sex Addicts Anonymous for those who feel they need support in the relevant areas.

What I do know from my experience, not from theory, is that my role as an escort has resulted in many people being helped in numerous ways, not only to experience sex with someone new or more experienced or to enact their fantasies even - but in other, more human soul ways too, some quite remarkably, others very touchingly, sometimes impacting on my own life and helping change my view of the world and theirs too, often for the better. Many of my clients have become good friends.

I enjoy my role

It was my conscious, reasoned and deliberate choice to take this path in life. It was not an easy choice to make, mainly because of the way escorting is perceived by people in a climate so often ruled by stereotypical imagery and, in many cases, what to my mind are hypocritical values. For example, many of the people that will condemn "that sort of thing" might just as easily be greedy people, jealous of their neighbour's cars / widescreen TV / etc. or have other less "socially challenged" vices.

I do understand the need to protect women from harm e.g. I am totally against human trafficking and the terrible plight of women forced into prostitution. There is a big difference to my mind between someone who is forced to do something and someone who chooses a rather more alternative lifestyle. In my case, the political argument of a girl being indirectly forced into something by lack of work opportunities also isn't applicable. I am trained in many other areas and, had I chosen to do so, I could have had a more "socially acceptable" role - I wouldn't call it a more professional one, as I endeavour to operate in a professional manner in my role as an escort.

Morally I have not decided whether escorting is right or wrong in itself, because where I am in my own spiritual life has, for quite some time, been one of questioning the existence of a higher organising power. So far I'm aware of the existence of what I call a "creator-genius" and I have a strong sense of the preciousness of human life and its uniqueness. My self esteem is not low and in many ways I've learned to become much more tolerant and less judgmental as a person, since becoming an escort.

Before you see me

What I ask before you decide to see me is:

a) That you can afford to see me. I don't want to think that anyone would get themselves in debt because of my services. I do know of cases where people have become addicted to sexual activity in much the same way as a person can become addicted to drink or anything. For anyone who feels they may have such a problem, I have included a link to some people who can advise you to overcome this on my links page.

b) That you are entirely clear in your own mind, that you are not seeing me to avoid confronting other problems in your life.

When you're happy that you're seeing me for the right reasons for you, then have a look at my services and let's have some fun :-)

If you decide to contact me, and wondered what I might want to know about you, the text on this page (written by Oriah Mountain Dreamer) may give you some idea where to begin. Including this page makes no assumptions that you would want to tell me anything at all, other than your wish for the meeting and that's fine too. I just find this text to be a very inspiring piece of writing and I wanted to include it on my site, as it sums up how I feel about a lot of things.