Ariana answers questions on "Confidence in Sex"

Much has been written about the use of sexual fantasy and creative visualisation – what advice do you have in this regard?

Sexual fantasy and creative visualisation techniques have potential to play a big part in sex for both men and women, to increase enjoyment and add variety within the relationship.

The brain is the biggest sex organ in the body and the imagination is limitless. Arousal begins in the brain and it is possible to think yourself into a sexually prepared state of mind.

I regularly use a combination of visualisation techniques that help increase my libido, for psychic protection, and to increase my energy levels before and after I see clients. I also use them for relaxation and meditation.

In sexual fantasy, a man and a woman can have a chance to be who they want to be for a time. My fantasy work is a bit like acting, only much more fun, because you don’t have a director on set telling you what to do or saying “cut”, “take 69” ;-)… only me and a client who get to explore other sides of our characters by the role-play.

My advice is to give role-play a go. As someone once said, “an ounce of experience is worth a ton of theory”. Don’t think you have to be great actresses or actors, just have fun – but take safety precautions and get clued up about safe practices if you decide to venture into things like bondage games. Always respect your partner’s “stop” and don’t play games with anyone you don’t trust.

There is much more I could write on this topic.