- Apparently fatigue is the single biggest cause for a woman avoiding sex – does your experience support this and, if so, what can be done?
I am aware that women mention fatigue as a factor in avoiding sex, yes, and in the past my libido hasn't always been as high as it is now. I do still sometimes experience tiredness, especially if I have late nights, but the situation for me changed remarkably when I made certain alterations to my lifestyle and I now feel like sex most days, sometimes several times a day. I don't want to say specifically what these lifestyle issues are at this point, because I'm currently writing a book which will include this, but there are definitely things that have worked for me.
- Some examples of reasons for fatigue.
There are many reasons for tiredness in women, and this is not a full list of factors.
Here are some typical examples:
- Inadequate diet leading to low energy levels.
- Pregnancy / new baby / young children - broken sleep due to breast-feeding / bottle-feeding / feeling physically uncomfortable and emotionally exhausted from the new demands.
- Undiagnosed post-natal depression.
- Juggling too much can lead to scattered energy (trying to be all things to all people, without giving time to herself can lead to her feeling drained).
- Caring for relatives (for example, ageing parents) can be stressful and draining without support.
- Menstrual problems e.g. heavy periods due to fibroids, can lead to anaemia and tiredness due to blood loss.
- Insomnia – this can have many causes e.g. un-relaxing bed-time routine, going to bed at different times, not unwinding before bed, maybe watching a late night adventure or horror film / exercising too late / eating too late in the evening / shift work.
- Poor sleep environment – e.g. bedroom used for other activities instead of sleep such as watching television, computer work, not enough ventilation, bedroom not dark enough.
- "Unprocessed" worries or anxieties. Women feel better when they've off-loaded what's on their minds. If they don't have a chance to talk about feelings, it can lead to a build up of emotional tension which can affect bodily tension (tight muscles) and adds to tiredness.
